LGBTIQ+, life

It gets better!

May 17 is International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Intersexism and Transphobia (IDAHOBIT). This date was established in 2004 to commemorate the day when the World Health Organisation removed the classification of homosexuality as a mental disorder (in May 17, 1990).

28 years have passed since then and, although there have been important advances, the people from the LGBTIQ + community still continue fighting for our rights. It is important to generate visibility so that members of our own community living in fear and doubt know that everything will get better. Therefore, in this post, I want to share my story and bring a little hope to those who are struggling.

I still remember what it was like to live in the closet. I grew up being different from the other boys: I did not like football, nor the cars, nor the other things that society has established as manly. Of course that made me an easy target for bullies and there was always someone calling me things like faggot, queer, and other words to make me feel bad.

Every time I heard one of those insults I felt ashamed. And the worst thing is that many times, those words came from people I love. I lived that moment of my life trying to control my gestures, my movements, the tone of my voice and my tastes to ‘be more masculine’ and be as unnoticed as possible.

For a long time I thought I was the only one different. That I was always going to live feeling strange in my own skin. But then I finished high school and moved to Mexico City to go to Uni and everything changed: I met my first gay friend and I realised that I wasn’t alone, there were more people like me.

That gave me the courage to come out of the closet and I realised that the people who really love me don’t care about my sexual preferences.

Yes, at the beginning it was difficult but it was worth it. Today I feel happy and proud of the person I am and that has made me lose the fear of showing myself as I am to others. So, if you are reading this message and you live in fear or confused for being gay, resist! It does get better, I promise.


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